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Dealing with the loss of a loved one.

TornadoFan

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Sorry I haven't been around much. But unfortunately, I've been dealing with the loss of my dad. He passed away on the 22nd of August at the age of 76 after catching pneumonia at the nursing home that he was undergoing rehabilitation at. In June, just after we got home from our cruise to Alaska, we had to rush him to the emergency room due to a twisted intestine. He had to undergo emergency surgery and while the surgery went well, it's believed he had a stroke while he was still under sedation, which he didn't wake up from for 6 days. He seemed like he was recovering while in the hospital. But when he went to the nursing home last month, that's when things started to go downhill. He became severly dehydrated and underweight. And we have reason to believe that the nursing home didn't provide him enough care. They didn't clean his mouth like they should have and they didn't give him ice to chew on, which would have helped him with recovering his swallowing ability. We believe he caught the pneumonia when he wasn't able to swallow correctly.
 
TornadoFan said:
Sorry I haven't been around much. But unfortunately, I've been dealing with the loss of my dad. He passed away on the 22nd of August at the age of 76 after catching pneumonia at the nursing home that he was undergoing rehabilitation at. In June, just after we got home from our cruise to Alaska, we had to rush him to the emergency room due to a twisted intestine. He had to undergo emergency surgery and while the surgery went well, it's believed he had a stroke while he was still under sedation, which he didn't wake up from for 6 days. He seemed like he was recovering while in the hospital. But when he went to the nursing home last month, that's when things started to go downhill. He became severly dehydrated and underweight. And we have reason to believe that the nursing home didn't provide him enough care. They didn't clean his mouth like they should have and they didn't give him ice to chew on, which would have helped him with recovering his swallowing ability. We believe he caught the pneumonia when he wasn't able to swallow correctly.
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I'm extremely sorry to hear this. I'm here for a DM if you ever need to vent or etc. It's not easy to deal with at all
 
TornadoFan said:
Sorry I haven't been around much. But unfortunately, I've been dealing with the loss of my dad. He passed away on the 22nd of August at the age of 76 after catching pneumonia at the nursing home that he was undergoing rehabilitation at. In June, just after we got home from our cruise to Alaska, we had to rush him to the emergency room due to a twisted intestine. He had to undergo emergency surgery and while the surgery went well, it's believed he had a stroke while he was still under sedation, which he didn't wake up from for 6 days. He seemed like he was recovering while in the hospital. But when he went to the nursing home last month, that's when things started to go downhill. He became severly dehydrated and underweight. And we have reason to believe that the nursing home didn't provide him enough care. They didn't clean his mouth like they should have and they didn't give him ice to chew on, which would have helped him with recovering his swallowing ability. We believe he caught the pneumonia when he wasn't able to swallow correctly.
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Although my situation is different. I can understand the sudden lost and the different emotions that come with a death of someone close. I won’t go into detail but me and my wife have been dealing with a death of someone that happened in a very tragic accident that we were witness and a part of. It’s definitely a punch to the gut. Hang in there. If I have one good word for you it’s that you will find peace and those around you will find peace eventually. It’s a process with many different emotions and stages. If you want reach out or I can share with you hear. Maybe I can give words of comfort or reassurance as me and my wife have been going through the grieving process. The anger, the sadness, the helpless, and guilt will come in waves but you have to endure it. They come in different intensities and sequences but it will eventually subside into peace. Make sure to surround yourself with people who will listen don’t isolate yourself. The best thing that has worked for us, is to continually talk and find someone who will listen and support you. Whether it’s a therapist or a close family friend or a family member. I imagine many people in the forum would listen and sympathize as well. Don’t be afraid and don’t be embarrassed with opening up with people. Godspeed.
 
We buried him on Monday at our local veteran's cemetary. He recieved full military honors, including a 4 gun salute because he served in the air force band in the early 70's. He was stationed in Alaska and California. It was a really bittersweet service.
 
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First off, I'm sorry for your loss @TornadoFan. It's very difficult to see people you know pass away especially family members who you are close to. I want to bring this up to because I too have lost family members and dear friends recently myself:

Second, I just want to apologize for my absence and little outburst towards @Blountwolf. Truth is it's been tough lately. Sometimes I feel like I don't matter and it hurts that I don't have a team of meteorologists who I can talk to/correspond with like what do you think of this, etc. It's just me, myself, and I trying to figure out what I should say, how to get my point across without hyping, etc. It truly hurts. Last year, I lost my speech therapist who helped me overcome my speech impediment due to Cerebral Palsy. We would meet every month for lunch and just talk. I miss her dearly not just because she helped me overcome my impediment but she actually listened to what I had to say. Then on top of all that, the day before Thanksgiving, I lost my 93 year old grandma to a seizure. Then over into January of this year, I lost one of my uncles to a heart attack. He was my grandma's brother and he also served in the Korean War. It all happen so fast that it still hasn't hit me yet. I'm not one to share personal things much, but I feel like I need to. So I'm sorry. I try so hard to do a good job to the best of my ability and I hope I do just that.
 
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Second, I just want to apologize for my absence and little outburst towards @Blountwolf.
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@JPWX I was less offended and more worried about you. You matter. Keep moving forward.

@TornadoFan I am so sorry for your loss. Coincidentally, I lost my Dad 2 days before you did, to an unexpected fall. He was in incredibly good health for 81 - and had been mixing concrete in a wheelbarrow 2 days before, by hand. There's no good way. May memories of him comfort you.
 
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